It’s important to know “why”, right? But why even go there? Why do different parts of me whine when I wonder about whying? This can get very complicated when I let it. Why would I do that – or why not?
The Pro v. Con (fessional) Contribution – Once I become willing to notice and explore “why” I am re-acting (acting once again) in a way that doesn’t seem quite in alignment with who I am today, I might just consider a private-ponder moment. Hmmm…is this response actually beneficial in this circumstance – or could it be a reaction from something that happened in my past? Letting go of the why, I create some inner space to ask myself the what, where and when questions…and perhaps discover how that habitual reaction originated.
Eureka! Awareness = Choice. Then, consciously (and gently) acquiescing to a healthier adult-self (or, perhaps even checking in with my future, even-wiser self!) changes predictable outcome. From reaction to traction. The way I see it, consciously gaining a little ground on the inner battlefield is always a good thing.
The Con (Artist) Confusion – This is where the “Why” questions throw me off-course. Somewhere near the borders of La-La Land and the Land Before Time, there is a vague awareness of a sneaky-self lurking about; one who engages in “buffet thinking”…this time I can handle it… while somehow KNOWING regret is in my future…these are those engaging “why questions” that eventually abandon me in utter confusion; that is, fused with the illusion that they were legitimate, important (aka, a waste of time) and once I find THE answers, all my problems will be solved! And, then, to make matters worse, what to my wandering eyes should appear? Distraction, defense, drama; judgment, jury, jester; controller, crtic, cop-out…and naturally, a miniature sleigh with eight tiny reindeer!! Wait, wait, stop! Where did I go?! What happened to my focus? That creative ego (see, that’s WHY it is a con-artist) has me so lost I forgot I was going somewhere.
Heavy Sigh. Alas, once I finally land again (probably somewhere on the south pole) guess what question awaits me? “WHY did I do that again?!” Vaguely familiar – I’m somewhere in the Y hood. But this time, no Eureka. I’m in Y-Reka…and I’m not talking California cities. But suddenly, the freedom once found in the “Why” questions has started to reek with avoidance.
(Non) Prophet Perspective – Even if/when I get all the answers to all my whys – then what? What new trick will my ego (that creative con-artist) try? Remember, it’s job is to keep me stuck in the why’s – to stay afraid of the WISE. From experience, I know whatever it’s next gimmick is, it probably has a FOOL-PROOF GUARANTEE: It will exhaust and/or distract (mentally, physically or emotionally) this poor fool just enough to keep me from taking the next indicated step.
Wait, what if I don’t? Two can play (yeah, make it fun!) at this game! New tactic: I am going to pretend that I already know all the answers to all my damn “why” questions. OK, great. DONE. NOW what wise action will I take? OK, do that.
The Wise Mind keeps trying to explain to the “why’s? mind” – It’s all actually pretty simple: Tune in. Trust. Try it. New Tactic as Necessary. Have Fun.
Why ask for anything more?